Make Me Unbreakable

06/10/2026

Dude…

I had quite a few replies to yesterday's email.

Mainly saying why does it feel so hard to stop doing everything for everyone even when you know it’s no good for you.

So I thought I'd carry on with that today.

Because there's another way to slow life down.

Sometimes you don't need to work out what to put on the back seat.

Sometimes you need to stop putting more things in the car.

Years ago, I was terrible at boundaries.

Someone would invite me somewhere, ask me to do something or ask me to help with something.

My automatic response was yes.

I'd agree before I'd even thought about whether I actually wanted to do it.

Then I'd look at my calendar afterwards and think:

"Why did I say yes to that?"

Or sometimes I wouldn’t even need to look at my calendar because I already knew I didn’t want to go.

But then my therapist taught me something that changed everything.

Instead of immediately saying yes, she told me to say:

"That sounds cool. Let me look at my calendar and I'll get back to you."

That's it.

Just one sentence.

But it gave me something I hadn't been giving myself.

Time.

When someone asks you something in the moment, it's very easy to answer before you've actually thought about it.

You don't want to disappoint them.

You don't want to seem difficult.

So you say yes.

Then later, when you're looking at your calendar, you realise you've just added another thing to an already packed week.

Giving myself that bit of space allowed me to slow down and work out what I actually wanted.

Not what I thought I should want.

Not what would make someone else happy.

What did I actually want to do?

Sometimes I'd look at my calendar and think:

"Yes, I’m up for that."

So I'd go.

And sometimes I'd thikn:

"No. I really don't want to do that."

And I'd say no.

Eventually, I didn't even need the extra step.

I went from:

"That sounds cool. Let me check my calendar and get back to you."

To:

"I appreciate the offer, but no thank you."

And the first few times I did that without feeling guilty?

It felt amazing.

Because I'd finally realised something.

Saying no doesn't make you a bad person.

It means you've made a decision about your own time.

And honestly, it was one of the best things therapy ever taught me.

Because look at what happens when you don't do this.

You say yes to one thing.

Then another.

Then another.

And suddenly you're wondering why you're exhausted.

Why you never have time for yourself.

Why your calendar is full.

Maybe you don't need better time management.

Maybe you need fewer things in your time.

And I think this is one of the reasons so many women struggle to stick to fitness.

Their life is already full of other people's priorities, and there's barely any room left for their own.

So you decide you want to get in better shape.

You add training to an already full week.

You add meal prep.

You add more steps.

You add another thing you need to remember.

And then you wonder why it doesn't stick.

Sometimes the answer isn't finding another hour.

Sometimes the answer is deciding what doesn't need to happen.

That's what I mean when I talk about building something that works in real life.

I don't want Unbreakable to become another thing on your list that you have to somehow squeeze in.

I want you to get better at understanding your own life.

Knowing what matters.

Knowing what can wait.

Knowing when to push.

Knowing when to slow down.

And knowing what to say no to so you can say yes to the things that actually move the needle.

So the next time someone asks you to do something, try this:

"That sounds great. Let me have a look and I'll get back to you."

Then actually look.

Ask yourself:

Do I want to do this?

Am I saying yes because I want to, or because I feel like I should?

You might be surprised by the answer.

And you might find that you suddenly have more time for the things that actually matter.

Like getting stronger.

Like training without guilt.

Like taking care of yourself without it becoming another source of stress.

Because sometimes slowing your life down doesn't mean doing less of everything.

It means getting better at deciding what deserves your time.

That's something I teach inside Unbreakable50.

Because if you never protect your time, your goals will always be the first thing to get pushed aside.

And maybe that's something worth changing.

See you tomorrow,

Lynton ❤️

05/10/2026

You might have noticed I've been a bit quiet.

Or maybe you didn't.

Either way, I definitely noticed.

I've actually had a couple of emails from women asking if I was still sending emails.😂

So yes...

I'm still here.

I've just been absolutely flat out getting the Make Me Unbreakable studio ready for you ladies to start coming in.

There have been a million little things to sort.

Things to build.

Things to paint.

Things to organise.

And if I'm honest, I've had to put a few things on the back seat while I've dealt with it all.

One of those things was these emails.

And actually, I think there's a lesson in that.

Knowing what to put on the back seat is a skill.

Because when you're busy, the natural reaction is to try and do everything.

You've got work.

You've got the kids.

You've got your partner.

You've got the shopping.

You've got people asking you for things.

And then you've got the things you actually want to do for yourself.

So what happens?

You say yes.

Again.

And again.

And again.

Not because you're weak.

Not because you can't prioritise.

But because you're used to being the person who gets things done.

The person people rely on.

The person who somehow finds a way to squeeze one more thing into an already full day.

But here's what most people get wrong:

You can't keep everything at the front of the queue.

Something has to slow down.

Something has to wait.

Something has to become less important for a little while.

And that's a skill I think is massively underrated.

Because sometimes the smartest thing you can do isn't finding another hour in your day.

It's deciding that something doesn't need your attention right now.

That's exactly what I've had to do last week.

I've not stopped caring about these emails.

I've not decided they're no longer important.

They've simply had to move backwards in the queue while something else needed my attention.

And that's okay.

The studio needed me.

So I gave it my attention.

And the same thing applies to your life.

There will be weeks when work needs more of you.

Weeks when the kids need more of you.

Weeks when your relationship needs more of you.

Weeks when you're dealing with something you didn't plan for.

And sometimes, something you're doing for yourself will need to slow down.

That's not failure.

That's life.

The mistake is thinking that because something has had to go on the back seat, you've somehow failed.

You haven't.

You've prioritised.

There's a massive difference.

Here's what this actually looks like:

Maybe your training drops from three sessions to two for a couple of weeks.

Maybe you don't have the energy to cook elaborate meals, so you simplify.

Maybe you need to stop trying to hit every target.

Maybe you need to say no to something.

And here's the bit I really want you to remember:

Putting something on the back seat doesn't mean you've quit.

It means you've recognised that right now, something else needs your attention.

When you're busy, the answer isn't always:

"Right, how do I fit everything in?"

Sometimes the better question is:

"What doesn't need to happen right now?"

That one question can give you a surprising amount of your life back.

Because you don't need to say yes to everything.

You don't need to finish everything today.

Sometimes you just need to decide which plate you're willing to put down for a little while.

This is exactly what I teach inside Unbreakable.

Because I don't want you trying to force your life around a fitness programme.

I want you to understand your own life well enough to know when you can push forward.

And when you need to slow something down.

That's the difference between a plan that only works when life is easy and a way of living that actually works.

So yes, I disappeared for a week.

But now you know why.

And the studio is virtually complete.

I've been in there looking around over the last few days and, honestly, it looks brilliant.

Photos and videos coming very soon.

Because this is the bit where all the planning, painting and building starts to become something real.

A place for you.

A place to train.

A place to meet other women who get it.

No men.

No mirrors.

Somewhere I hope you genuinely enjoy being.

You don't need to do everything.

Sometimes you just need to know what can wait.

And if you want to build a way of doing this that actually works when life gets messy, when you need to slow down, when priorities shift, when real life happens, that's what we're building inside Unbreakable50.

www.makemeunbreakable.com

See you tomorrow,

Lynton ❤️

P.S A few ladies have been testing my nutrition system for me, and from early feedback they love it.

If you want to test it and give me some feedback hit REPLY and I will send over the details.

24/09/2026

Morning,

Rremember Rhea?

When I first told you about her, she'd spent around 18 months feeling like she wasn't quite herself.

She was exhausted.

She was waking at 3am.

She was struggling to find words in meetings.

Her mood was all over the place.

She'd started cancelling plans because she simply didn't have the energy.

And, like a lot of women, she blamed herself.

Maybe she wasn't exercising enough.

Maybe she was eating the wrong things.

Maybe she needed another supplement.

Maybe she just needed to try harder.

She'd tried diets.

Supplements.

Going to the gym.

And none of it seemed to be fixing what was actually going on.

Then she read my email about the five non negotiables things peri/menopausal women should do.

She told me she read it about 20 times.

Eventually, she picked up the phone and called her GP.

She booked the appointment.

She went.

She explained what had been happening and what she'd already tried.

Her GP arranged blood tests and they started looking at what might actually be going on.

And that was the beginning of a very different chapter for her.

She said she has now started treatment and in just 6 weeks feels like she's noticed some big changes.

Her energy is better.

Her mood is more consistent and is less emotional.

She's noticed some relief from the aches and stiffness she'd been experiencing.

And she even said her husband seems much happier now she has started. (Presuming he’s getting more bedroom action. 😂)

But when I spoke to her about it, something else stood out to me.

The biggest change wasn't anything to do with number on the scales.

It was her quality of life.

And I think that's something we massively underestimate.

Because when women talk about wanting to lose weight, get fitter or change their body, we often reduce everything down to a number.

How much do you weigh?

What size are your clothes?

How many calories are you eating?

But what if we asked a different question?

How do you actually feel?

That's the question Rhea asked herself.

And when she started noticing the changes, here's what she told me:

"It feels like I have more energy so I'm making plans instead of cancelling them. I feel a bit more like myself again each week."

Then she added something else which I think is gold:

"I'm not sure if it's the HRT or because I told myself I was starting HRT, but I feel much more positive about everything."

And that's the most important thing about this email.

Sometimes it's not just the treatment.

It’s the mindset shift you go through, she wasn’t sure if it was the HRT or because she told herself she was starting HRT but she feels more positive.

And in turn what does that mean?

Less emotional,

Less eating,

And life feels much easier to navigate.

Because here's the thing.

You can get so used to feeling rubbish that you stop questioning it.

You just assume oh this is what getting older feels like right?

I know I do.

No one told me about all the extra pain I’d have as I got older.

(My mum used to tell me she can feel the pain in her bones, and now I get it 😂.)

You assume being exhausted is normal.

You assume your mood being all over the place is something you just have to put up with.

You assume feeling uncomfortable in your own body is simply part of life now.

And slowly, without really noticing it, your life gets smaller.

You stop going out.

You stop making plans.

You stop doing things because you can't be bothered.

You stop feeling like yourself.

And eventually, feeling rubbish becomes your new normal.

That's what struck me most about Rhea.

She hadn't realised how much she'd lost until she started getting some of it back.

The consistency in her mood.

The intimacy.

The enjoyment.

The feeling that life was opening up again.

That is a quality of life improvement.

And it's worth paying attention to.

Rhea said she’s email me again in a few months to keep me updated.

So keep an eye out for that email.

Now, I want to be really clear about something.

I'm not suggesting HRT or any particular treatment is the answer for every woman.

It isn't.

I'm not a doctor and I'm not telling you what treatment you should have.

But if you're experiencing symptoms that are affecting your quality of life, don't automatically assume you just have to live with them.

Speak to your GP or an appropriate healthcare professional.

Get properly looked at.

Because you don't have to simply accept feeling rubbish as the price of getting older.

And this is something I think about with MMU too.

Because yes, changing your body matters.

If that's something you want to do, we'll work towards it.

But that's not the only reason we're doing this.

The goal isn't simply to make your body smaller.

It's to help you feel better living in it.

More energy.

More confidence.

More freedom.

More enjoyment.

More life.

And sometimes the first step isn't another diet, another workout or another Monday morning promise.

Sometimes it's simply asking yourself an honest question:

How do I actually feel?

And if the answer isn't where you want it to be, maybe it's time to find out why.

Lynton ❤️

I’m off camping for the weekend so I’ll catch you next week.

Have a great weekend.

21/09/2026

Happy Monday….

Let’s get after the week.

Or recover from mum life over the weekend 😂..

I watched a video last night that got me thinking.

A female influencer was asking women a simple question:

"How much do you think you weigh?"

They gave her their answers.

Then she pulled out scales.

And in every example I watched, they were heavier than they thought.

Not by a pound or two.

By a significant amount.

Then she asked them:

"How many calories do you eat in a day?"

Most of them underestimated.

By quite a bit.

Then she asked:

"How many calories do you think you burn in a gym session?"

Some thought they were burning 1,000 calories or more.

Which is obviously far more than most people are going to burn in a typical gym session.

More than double for most.

Three different areas.

Same basic problem.

What they thought was happening didn't match what was actually happening.

And it got me thinking about you.

Not because I think you're wrong about your body.

But because I think you might be wrong about what's actually happening.

And that's not your fault.

That's just what happens when you're a busy woman over 30 who's been trying to figure this out for years.

You get tired.

You make educated guesses.

You think:

"I'm probably eating around X calories."

"I'm probably burning Y in a session."

"I'm probably doing okay with my weight."

But probably isn't the same as knowing.

And when you're guessing, it's very easy to be quite a bit off.

Here's what I've learned from coaching women like you:

The ones who actually change aren't necessarily the ones with the most willpower.

They're not the ones killing themselves in the gym.

They're not the ones eating chicken and broccoli every day.

They're the ones who actually know what's happening.

Because once you have a clearer picture of what's really going on, your next decision becomes a lot easier.

You're not wondering why it's not working.

You're not blaming yoursefl.

You're not thinking:

"Maybe I just can't lose weight."

"Maybe my metabolism is broken."

"Maybe I need to try harder."

You have information.

And that means you can make a better decision about what to do next.

But here's the thing.

You're busy.

You've got a life.

You don't have time to obsess over tracking every single thing.

And you shouldn't have to.

That's where coaching comes in.

Your job is to get on with your life.

To eat the way you normally eat.

To train.

To do your thing.

And I'll be looking at what's actually happening.

We'll track your food.

Your water.

Your coffee.

Your sleep.

Your stress.

Your heart rate during sessions.

Your estimated calories burned during training.

Your progress.

Not because I want you obsessing over numbers.

Quite the opposite.

Because the more information we have, the less we have to guess.

I'll be able to see patterns that you might not notice yourself.

Maybe you're eating more than you realised.

Maybe you're not eating enough.

Maybe your sleep is affecting your training.

Maybe you're stressed and it's making everything harder.

Maybe you're training brilliantly but your expectations about how quickly things should change are unrealistic.

Maybe something else is going on entirely.

But we won't have to guess.

We'll have information.

And then we'll make decisions based on that information.

Not guesses.

Not generic advice.

Not:

"Eat less and exercise more."

Just:

Here's what's actually happening.

Here's what we need to adjust.

That's it.

Because I've worked with enough women to know that most of you aren't lazy.

Most of you aren't undisciplined.

Most of you aren't broken.

You're just working with incomplete information.

You're trying to solve a puzzle without seeing the full picture.

And the second you start seeing the full picture, your next move becomes much clearer.

You stop blaming yourself.

You stop wondering if you're doing enough.

You stop randomly trying harder.

And you can start making smarter decisions.

That's what we do at MMU.

We don't give you a plan and hope you follow it perfectly.

We look at your actual life.

Your actual food.

Your actual training.

Your actual habits.

Your sleep.

Your stress.

Your progress.

And then we build something that works for you.

Not the version of you that you think you should be.

The real you.

The busy you.

The you who's got a job and a life and responsibilities.

The you who doesn't have time for complicated nonsense.

And here's the thing:

Once you know what's actually happening, you don't need to obsess anymore.

You just need to adjust.

And then keep going.

Because that's what coaching should do.

It should make things clearer.

Not more complicated.

It should help you understand what's happening rather than leaving you wondering why nothing seems to work.

And it should give you someone in your corner who can look at the bigger picture when you're too close to it yourself.

That's the bit that changes everything.

If that sounds like something you'd want to be part of, put your name down on our list.

That's all you're doing.

You're not joining anything.

You're not paying anything.

You're not committing to anything.

You're just saying:

"This sounds interesting. I'd like to hear more."

And then we'll chat.

We'll look at where you actually are.

We'll see if Unbreakable50 could be a good fit.

And then you decide.

www.makemeunbreakable.com

Lynton ❤️

P.S The studio was finally built yesterday… so we’re not too far away now….. pics coming soon…..

18/09/2026

Happy Friday,

When did getting fit become so serious?

Think about being a kid.

What did you want to do?

Have fun.

Run around.

And play games.

You didn't need someone standing there telling you that you had to complete three sets of 12 before you were allowed to leave.

You just moved.

You played.

You laughed.

And somehow, somewhere along the way, we grew up and decided exercise had to be hard.

Repetitive.

Twenty burpees.

Twenty squats.

Twenty more burpees.

Because apparently if you're not lying on the floor questioning your life choices at the end of a workout, it hasn't been a good session.

I've definitely been guilty of this.

I was in the Army for nearly a decade so it was drilled into me.

For years, my idea of a good training session was pretty simple.

Turn up.

Work hard.

Push yourself.

Get sweaty.

Do it again.

And there is absolutely nothing wrong with training hard.

Sometimes you want to push yourself.

Sometimes you want to see what you're capable of.

But the older I get, and the more women I coach, the more I've realised.

Not everyone wants the same thing from training.

We all have different bodies.

We're all at different stages of our lives.

Some people have injuries.

Some people are stronger than others.

Some people love lifting heavy.

Some people don't give care about being the strongest person in the room.

Some want to lose weight.

Some just want to get their confidence back.

And sometimes you turn up to training and you've got 100% to give.

Cool.

Let's use it.

But sometimes…

You've had a rubbish day.

Or a rubbish week.

You're tired.

You've got loads going on.

But you've only got 50% in the tank.

That's okay too dude.

I'm not going to stand there shouting at you because you're not giving me 100%.

You don't need to prove anything to me.

We'll still get you moving.

We'll still train.

We'll still do something that moves you forward.

But maybe today isn't the day for you to go absolutely flat out.

And that's one of the reasons I changed the way I coach.

I want you to actually want to come back for the next session.

This is why Unbreakable was so successful last time around, because the girls loved coming back.

And that's the difference.

Because if every session feels like punishment, eventually you're going to start looking for reasons not to go.

You'll be tired.

You'll have a busy day.

You'll think:

"I can't be bothered today."

And before you know it, you've missed a week.

Then another.

Then you're waiting for Monday to start again.

I'd rather make the sessions something you actually enjoy being part of.

So yes, we'll train.

But we'll also have some fun.

Connect 4 tournaments where you're using kettlebells and dumbbells as a team to build the pattern and beat the other team.

Team challenges where you're competing, laughing and actually enjoying being there.

Because when was the last time you went to the gym and laughed so hard you couldn't breathe?

Fun matters.

Not because I'm trying to turn training into something it's not.

But because I want this to be something you actually want to keep doing.

I want you leaving a session thinking:

"That was brilliant. When's the next one?"

Not:

"Thank God that's over."

Here's what I've learned:

Intensity doesn't matter much if you can't sustain it.

You don't need the perfect session.

You need sessions you'll actually show up for.

Week after week.

Month after month.

Because that's where the real change happens.

Not in one brutal workout.

But in the ones you keep coming back to.

And this is where CORE4 comes into it.

FUN.

FOCUS.

FITNESS.

FOOD.

Fitness is one part of your life.

It shouldn't have to take over your life.

And it definitely shouldn't make you hate the process of looking after yourself.

Maybe you've spent years thinking that getting in shape means being stricter.

Eating less.

Training harder.

Pushing yourself more.

Being more disciplined.

Maybe what you actually need is something you enjoy enough to keep coming back to.

Because that's the bit I've become much more interested in.

Not how hard can I make you train today?

But:

How can I make you want to come back next week?

That's what I'm building with Unbreakable50.

A place where you can train hard when you want to.

Take it easier when you need to.

Laugh.

Meet other women who get it.

Try things you've never done before.

And build something that actually fits around your life.

You don't have to be the fittest.

You don't have to walk through the door already confident.

And you definitely don't have to be perfect.

You just need to be willing to start.

If that sounds like the sort of training you'd actually enjoy being part of, you can put your name down for Unbreakable50.

And just so we're clear, putting your name down isn't joining.

There's no payment.

No contract.

No commitment.

You're simply telling me:

"This sounds interesting. I'd like to hear more."

I'll personally look at your application and, if I think Unbreakable50 could be right for you, I'll get in touch and we'll have a chat.

Then you decide.

www.makemeunbreakable.com

Have an amazing weekend.

Catch you next week.

Lynton 🤙❤️

Traditional gyms weren't designed around the reality of a woman with kids, a career, a relationship, a mortgage and a hundred things competing for her attention.

17/09/2026

Hey…

Hope you’re doing good.

I think todays email might help you.

Not just with fitness, but other areas of your life too.

A woman once called me a scumbag.

Not to my face.

On Facebook.

She told me I was exploiting women because of what I charged for my programme.

The funny thing was, at the time, the programme wasn't even open.

We were full.

There wasn't even anything for her to buy.

But there it was.

A fairly strong opinion about me and something I built.

And here's where it gets interesting.

I made a video about it.

Not to argue with her.

Not to prove her wrong.

Just to explain to other women what had happened, and what I actually do.

And you know what happened?

Women who weren't even my clients started commenting.

They started defending me.

They were saying things like:

"This guy actually cares about his clients."

Or:

"My friend did his programme and it changed her life."

People who had no reason to defend me.

No financial stake.

No obligation.

They just did.

And that's when I realised something.

The woman who called me a scumbag probably wasn't reacting to me at all.

She was reacting to something in her own life.

Maybe she wanted something but couldn't afford it.

Maybe she was stressed.

Maybe she was fed up with trying to change things and seeing no results.

Maybe it was something completely different.

I don't know.

Honestly, it doesn't really matter.

Because the useful bit isn't working out exactly why she reacted.

The useful bit is looking at my reaction to her reaction.

Now, I could have spent hours thinking about the criticism.

I could have argued with her.

I could have tried to prove why she was wrong.

I could have got angry.

I could have sat there wondering what other people thought about me.

But what's the point?

Because here's something I've had to learn over the years.

I can only control what I can control.

I can't control what someone thinks about me.

I can't control what someone says about me.

I can't control what someone else does.

What I can control is what I do next.

Have you ever had someone pull out in front of you while you're driving?

For the next few minutes you're furious.

For the next hour, maybe you're still thinking about it.

Meanwhile, the other driver?

They've completely forgotten about you.

They're at home, eating dinner, not thinking about the moment they cut you off.

You're the one still carrying it.

You're the one still stressed.

You're the one whose day is now being affected by something that happened five minutes ago.

And here's the interesting bit.

At some point, you get a choice about whether you keep carrying it.

You can stay angry.

Replay it.

Tell your partner what an idiot the other driver was.

Or you can take a breath, realise that you've probably done something similar yourself at some point, and get on with your day.

What happened still happened.

But you don't have to let it ruin the next three hours.

And the same thing happens in everyday life.

Someone says something critical.

Plans change.

A day doesn't go how you wanted.

You eat something you hadn't planned to eat.

You miss a workout.

You have a sh*t week.

And you've got this tiny moment where you decide what happens next.

Am I going to carry this?

Or am I going to notice what happened, learn from it if there's something to learn, and move on?

The women I see making progress aren't women who never have bad days.

They're women who gradually get better at what they do when those bad days happen.

They start noticing what they can control and what they can't.

They stop wasting so much energy on things outside their control.

And they start putting that energy into things that actually matter.

Showing up.

Doing the work.

Looking after themselves.

Being the person they want to be, regardless of what everyone else thinks.

And I think this is one of those things that applies to far more than the odd argument or someone annoying you on the road.

Because when you start working on yourself, you quickly realise that you can't control everything that happens in your life.

What you can do is get better at how you respond to it.

And honestly, that's something I think is far more useful than trying to create some perfect routine where everything goes to plan.

Because real life doesn't work like that.

Life is messy.

Plans change.

People annoy you.

And that's where most of the actual living happens.

That's something I've come to believe more and more in the way I coach women at MMU.

We're not trying to create a life where nothing goes wrong.

We're trying to help you build something that still works when it does.

Someone will still annoy you.

Your kids will still do stuff that p*sses you off.

Work will still be stressful.

Plans will still change.

You'll still have bad days.

That's life.

And that's why I don't want women spending the whole day rushing around looking after everyone else before finally deciding they deserve some "me time" at 10pm.

Because sometimes that isn't really me time.

Sometimes that's sitting on the sofa completely exhausted, scrolling your phone because you've finally got five minutes where nobody needs anything from you.

That's not necessarily giving yourself what you need.

It's often just trying to switch off after you've spent the entire day switched on.

Instead, we start putting yourself back on the list earlier.

Some time to focus.

Some movement.

Some decent food.

Some fun.

Not because you need another four things to add to your already busy schedule.

But because you are part of your life too.

You can't control everything that happens around you.

You can't control what people say.

You can't control what people think.

You can't control whether someone cuts you up on the way to work.

You can control what you do next.

And sometimes, that's enough.

That's it for today.

What's one thing you're carrying right now that you could choose to put down?

See you on the next one.

Lynton “control the controllable” Dell