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According to my son, I have a special gift…. Spawning…No not in the reproductive way, although I guess maybe since he’s ...
25/10/2026

According to my son, I have a special gift…. Spawning…

No not in the reproductive way, although I guess maybe since he’s my son!

In the “gaming” kind of way!

Basically, it seems I am able to “spawn” things that he’s been looking for, seconds after he has given up looking…

I can literally make them magically appear!

Today it was a spatula while we made American pancakes for breakfast.. he looked in the (messy) drawer, but could only find a thin one.

Seconds later, I found a bigger one, in the same draw!

Apparently I spawned it!

To be fair, I wonder whether it’s a female thing since it’s happened with my other half on numerous occasions..

It could also be described as “looking properly”!

I think I much prefer the “spawning” description!

What’s your special gift?

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

One of the hardest things about owning a pet is knowing when to let go…Jimbo, my rescue cat of 9 years travelled over th...
22/10/2026

One of the hardest things about owning a pet is knowing when to let go…

Jimbo, my rescue cat of 9 years travelled over the rainbow bridge yesterday, to be with my other 2 cats Wicket and Greedo.

He was 18 years old (88 in cat years!) and had a full life..
.but making the decision to let him go has been so very hard. Probably the worst part of owning a very beloved pet. I am heartbroken.

So I am doing my very best to remember all the good things about him. So here’s a small selection…

🐾The only cat I know who would actually meow “hello” when he came in the door..

🐾His love of sausages and chicken - he would literally appear as soon as he could smell them!

🐾Disappearing under the cooker when we first moved into our house and coming out covered in cobwebs and dust.

🐾The headbutts instead of kisses.

🐾The hunting.. ok maybe not.. but we were frequently the proud recipients of birds, mice, voles, rats and magpies…

🐾The cuddles and licks - in fact it was the lick that sealed the deal when he decided that I was the person to give him a new home after being rejected by another family twice.

🐾The frequent “looks” that suggested he was plotting to kill me in my sleep! He never did, but did bite my nose on occasion to get me out of bed to give him his breakfast!

🐾His excellent time keeping, mainly because it revolved around food!

🐾Learning how to set off the Ring Doorbell camera to indicate he wanted to come back in.

We love you and all miss you buddy and can’t believe it’s your time.. but I am so glad that we gave you a second chance to live your absolute best life, with so much love, cuddles and fun.

Give Wicket and Greedo a headbutt for me.

Helena x

Ps. Am now looking for a Feline Finance Director to support our Chairdog of the Board, Poppy. Applications accepted provided accompanied by Treatos x

21/10/2026

There’s something wonderful about getting text messages or voice notes from my clients..

Even 10 minutes long ones!!

And over the last few weeks I’ve had quite a few, each and every one absolutely making my day!

Because they show me evidence of the deep awareness that my clients have built from working with me…

Real integration of the shifts and changes that they have made through the coaching process and are continuing to embed into who they are!

Things like..

Boundaries - recognising when they need to re-establish them or that they have actually held them.

Patterns - seeing them in action, knowing they need to change them and then making steps towards that, including asking for further support from me.

The lightbulb moments around self trust, the Pretender masks® they or the people around them may be wearing allowing them to choose how to respond, rather than react and the worst self habits that show up when we aren’t at our best.

These simple texts and voice notes show me how the value I bring to the coaching room impacts on people’s lives!

And that just makes me want to shake my Poms Poms - mainly for them as they are the ones doing all the work, but also for me, as finding a role that allows me to live my life purpose of helping others without feeling like a job, is something to celebrate!

What are you shaking your Pom
Poms for this week?

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

19/10/2026

It’s good to be back!!

I haven’t been able to come to Tamworth Wellbeing and Cancer Centre for the last few months, mainly because I haven’t been battling with a variety of infections, which I didn’t want to pass onto any of the clients or volunteers!

So it has been so lovely to come back today and give 3 clients some reiki healing and then run a meditation session!

I’ve missed the love, laughter and support that I always experience when I come here!

What a great way to start the week!

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

You are rich by being who you are…This weekends bathroom book - Be Gentle with your Heart - a gift my partner received d...
11/10/2026

You are rich by being who you are…

This weekends bathroom book - Be Gentle with your Heart - a gift my partner received during a business event from the International Red Cross and Red Crescent Museum.

It features some beautiful messages, in many different languages, of self compassion from around the world, taken from the “Wall of Kindness” at the museum.

How beautiful!

I was flicking through the book this morning and this came up twice, so clearly it was the message I needed to share!

Happy Sunday all!

Helena x
Pattern Breaker.
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

No bathroom book review today as we are on a road trip to Manchester! My youngest is starting her journey to fly the nes...
03/10/2026

No bathroom book review today as we are on a road trip to Manchester!

My youngest is starting her journey to fly the nest, and this is the first of 6 trips to universities over the coming months!

We had an early start - left at 7am - to make sure she has enough time to see everything she wants to!

Unfortunately, what I suspect is a nasty dose of COVID has left me feeling just not quite my best..

So rather than embarrass her and hold her back, I have chosen to hole myself up in a nice coffee shop for the day with a book, while she gets to be independent!

But I’m not reading a bathroom book!

Am currently reading The Method by Tim Robinson - a fascinating read about an accidental experiment on LinkedIn! Hoping it may give me some inspiration!!

And it turns out now, we may need to pick up my son from Uni on our way home as well!

So basically, I have been Uber for my kids today! Which means this chai latte is very much deserved!

Have a fab weekend all!

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

I was just doing my job.Such simple words, heard frequently but loaded with so much more.When did “just doing our job” b...
30/09/2026

I was just doing my job.

Such simple words, heard frequently but loaded with so much more.

When did “just doing our job” become acceptable, when we know that for some people, they do so much more.

Which is why hitting submit on my The National Coaching Conference & National Coaching Awards award submission today feels so poignant (last minute I know but I have been ill with “freshers flu”)!

I hear it time and time again from professionals - engineers, directors, doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, teachers - all incredibly hardworking individuals who were “just doing their job”.

But they are so much more than that.

Their humanness makes them want to dig deeper and give more than just their job. Above and beyond the call of duty.

But to what expense?

What are they trying to prove?

It may be nothing, as they are simply following their life’s purpose.

Which is fine.

I believe when you are doing whatever it is you do for the right reasons and have a deep awareness of yourself, you know that it’s ok to acknowledge what you do is a good job and celebrate it, unapologetically.

But being humble and dumbing down your contribution to the world because you were “just doing your job” does nobody any favours.

It makes it acceptable to work yourself into the ground without acknowledgement.

Burnout becomes a badge of honour.

And for what reason?

Celebrating your contribution to the world is a deeply human response and we should stop feeling ashamed of it.

Somewhere along the way we forgot that there is a human behind the professional.

A human who has an important place in the world and needs to be celebrated for who they are, not just what they do.

You are not just the job you do.

And your contribution isn’t diminished because it happens to be part of your job description.

Because maybe the question isn’t whether you were “just doing your job”.

Maybe the question is:

What parts of you were doing it?

The human behind the professional.

The person who cared enough to go further.

Who questioned.
Who noticed.
Who challenged.
Who stayed late.
Who made a difference.
Who brought something to the role that could never have been written into a job description.

THAT deserves to be acknowledged too.

Not because you need another badge of achievement to prove you’re worthy.

But because celebrating your contribution is a deeply human response.

And maybe it’s time we stopped being quite so apologetic about being human.

So yes, I’m hitting submit today.

And I’m going to resist the urge to say, “It’s nothing. I was just doing my job.”

Because it isn’t nothing.

It matters to me.

It matters to the people I’ve worked with, especially those who nominated me.

And I’m allowed to acknowledge that.

Not because I need an award to tell me I’m good enough - I have 2 already (see below!)!

But because I’m finally learning that acknowledging my contribution doesn’t make me arrogant.

It makes me human.

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder and you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone…But I never thought I’d f...
29/09/2026

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder and you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone…

But I never thought I’d feel that way about a car!

Just over 7 weeks ago, an Asda van reversed into my car causing significant damage.

Today, I got it back!

And I’ve really missed it!

Because whilst I am very grateful to my insurance company for taking it away to be fixed, and supplying me with a hire car, it’s been 7 weeks of:

Annoying bleeping in my hire car when I got slightly over the speed limit and over sensitive sensors on the front and back even if I am within a metre of anything! Including humans!

Having to stop on the side of the road, because the wing mirrors on the hire car have refused to open properly. So I have to get out, lock the car and unlock it again to get them open!

Irritating texts, emails and letters from my insurance company telling me that the “little white box” in my car wasn’t sending any data - I know, I’ve told you it’s in a garage waiting to be fixed!

Waiting for parts to arrive because they have to come from BYD China, on a boat!

Messages to say I can pick the car up in a couple of days, only to be told on the day that it will be another week!

But finally it’s home! All fixed, shiny and sorted! Yay!

So I am very very happy to get my little car back!

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

Stop being so stupid and pull yourself together…Words said to me by someone I considered a friend in my first year of un...
28/09/2026

Stop being so stupid and pull yourself together…

Words said to me by someone I considered a friend in my first year of uni.

I was really struggling with the transition from home and in reality, when I look back now, it was my first bout of depression.

Fortunately, I had other friends and amazing family who looked after me.

But that experience stayed with me for a very long time.

And the impact of it reared its ugly head a couple of years ago, when it was my son’s turn to go to uni.

The months running up to him going were emotional.. a real rollercoaster. Not for him though. For me!

Yes I was so excited for him and enjoyed the ritual preparations - trips to Ikea, teaching him how to cook!

But at the same time, a part of me was petrified. Petrified that he would have a similar experience to me, where his mental health was concerned.

That someone would be that unkind and unsupportive. And I wouldn’t be there to support him.

And every time I thought about it, I would panic and burst into tears. But I didn’t really know why.

He was amazing though. He was patient and kind and let me cry. Comforting me and assuring me that he would let me know if he was struggling.

But it made the whole experience of “launching my biggest bird” so much harder.

I was projecting my own experience and fears onto him irrationally. And it nearly broke me.

Until I had some coaching.. the very coaching I now offer to others..

That initial uni experience was haunting me. It was sitting on my amygdala like a landmine waiting to go off. So when my eldest went to uni, it exploded… big style.

Luckily my coach saw this in the aftermath and suggested something called Event Havening.

She gently took me into that horrible event, and through havening touch, some distraction games and eye movement, we neutralised that landmine. Like a bomb disposal expert!

So flash forward to this weekend, when I dropped my son off for his 3rd year at uni (how did that happen!) and it was a joy!

We moved him in, unpacked and picked up a few bits to get him settled!

No major explosive emotions or tears, except maybe how proud I am of him and how much I will miss him as we’ve had a fab summer together.

But I know he will be ok! More than ok!

It’s often the littlest things that can create such huge responses to normal life stuff and we may not really know why till we dig..

And that’s what I do.. dig to find the things that still keep you stuck or reactive or get in your way.

Stopping you from living your absolute best life ever!

Want to know more? Get in touch!!

Helena x
Pattern Breaker
Unleashing Inner Tiggers

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