When the best part of a business workshop was the swing….
Except it wasn’t the only good thing!!
Yesterday, I spent the day with a bunch of amazing small business people, at an event run by 3 amazing women - Fran Ash, Sarah Carter and Kim Goode, at the beautiful Albrighton Hall Hotel & Spa, a member of Radisson Individuals.
A whole day focusing on our business!
But what stood out for me most - the psychological safety these 3 ladies created that meant we could be open, honest, vulnerable and actually allow ourselves to play!
Yes play, at a business workshop!
I think this is something that many of us have forgotten how to do..
But it’s something very very close to my heart as it’s one of my values.. and something that I aim to bring into everything I do every single day!
When they told us at the lunch break there was a swing at the hotel, I was literally the first one running out the door to find it.
Because who doesn’t love to go on a swing.
To feel the wind in your hair and the freedom of floating through the air, and seeing just how high you can go!
Only a few other people reluctantly did the same - mainly at my encouragement (force!) but they absolutely loved it!
And something became very clear..
When did we lose the ability to play?
When did it become “inappropriate” to allow ourselves to play as adults?
Surely life is so much more than having to be serious, professional and grown up all the time?
Isn’t it time we ALL allowed our inner child a moment to shine, unapologetically?
Because when that happens, we bring the magic and joy back to the world.
We are more creative.
Full of joy and awe.
And the art of the possible seems to have no limits.
And isn’t that what we all need more of when it comes to our work and our lives.
So go find the swing. Go let yourself play, and give that little version of you a chance to shine!
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer.
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02/06/2026
Today I was compared to Bob the Builder!
Now that’s definitely a first!!
But it made me reflect on the interactions I have had with my clients over the last few weeks and some of the feedback I have received.
So I thought it would be nice to share that with you!
One of my PASEDA360® COACH TRAINING ACADEMY Master Practitioner Case Study clients sent me a beautiful reflection of our first session together last week..
The thing that stood out for me most was this…
She said…
“you are going to help me build a pair of wings that will help to ‘lift me’, not just in a physical way to assist in climbing the ladder, but in a psychological way which I will find quite liberating”
“…the wings will help to free my soul so it can emerge at peace…”
Wow.. just wow!
Today, I received the most gorgeous message from a meditation client who said…
“Just wants to let you know I was so so relieved. Your work has had an extremely positive impact on me.
Thank you, I'd been worrying about the pain since knowing I had appointment.
Helena you are a star”
After she used some breathing techniques I had taught her to help cope with the pain and anxiety of a medical procedure.
When I said that she has done it herself, I’d just given her the tools, she called me Bob The Builder!
Now I want to make this VERY clear..
I DO NOT fix people..
I give them the tools, the space and the support so that people feel psychologically safe to do the work…
Yes, I use tools and techniques WITH them to uncover the blocks, resolve the repeating patterns that keep them stuck and rediscover who they really are so they feel emotionally regulated to co-create a life that they want and love.
And if that makes me like Bob The Builder, then I am Ok with that!
Just without the fixing!!
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer.
31/05/2026
What if BE-ing IS the DO-ing today?
I woke up anxious this morning.
Not dramatically anxious. Just a low hum. I could feel the pressure and tension sat right in my solar plexus before I’d even opened my eyes properly.
My partner’s away with work. The house is quiet. And within seconds my brain had already started.
I should be working. I should be making the most of this time. I should be further ahead than I am.
Should. Should. Should.
Arrghhhhhhh!
Yesterday I tried to rest. I actually tried. And instead I watched TV I wasn’t really watching, pottered around doing jobs that probably didn’t need doing, felt vaguely guilty pretty much all day - and it was gone 4pm before I sat in the sun with a book.
And it felt really really nice. No one told me off. The world didn’t end. Nothing fell apart.
But this morning I can already feel the pull to DO something. Anything. The BE feels really icky and uncomfortable - like I haven’t quite earned it yet.
So I made myself sit with it because it’s the best way to work through it - feeling emotions is uncomfortable but they don’t last forever..
And what I realised in that sitting is this…
I teach nervous system regulation. I literally help people understand why their body braces like this. Why the solar plexus grips. Why stillness feels more dangerous than staying busy.
And here I am. Doing the exact thing.
How flipping annoying!!!
So today I’m going to try something that feels a bit radical to me - I’m going to start with - meditation in bed, a nice cup of tea and maybe read the book. Not end with it.
If you’re feeling that same ick this morning - that voice that says move, do, achieve, earn - this is for you.
What would it feel like to make the BE the doing today?
Because after all, we are human BE-ings and not human DO-ings…
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer.
29/05/2026
Its Fri-Yay! Finally....
What a week this has been, which is why I've been a bit quiet on here.
Monday started with a manic lawnmower session in the blazing heat - but first, a trip to the tip to get rid of the grass from the last time I mowed. Because I live in Birmingham, which means no green bin collection. But at least the strikes have stopped.
Brand new client on Tuesday. Three hours diving deep into limiting beliefs, past events, their whole story, with fans on full blast to keep us cool. The kind of session that reminds you exactly why you do this work. The message I got from them the next day? Phenomenal. That’s the stuff.
Wednesday, I relaxed and enjoyed time with my lovely sister and my nieces. They were delivering the most adorable Year 6 teddies in little hoodies made from their school uniforms. Genuinely the cutest thing - see below!
Thursday, two clients. A case study and one of my young person clients.
And today, a planning session with my fellow Master Practitioner trainees to map out everything we need to document for accreditation, and another case study client this afternoon.
Oh, and somewhere in between all of that… I’ve had to fit a little black box to my car - well its white actually. Because accumulating points on your driving licence makes your insurance eye-wateringly expensive.
Words of wisdom from me to you: don’t speed. And definitely don’t get caught.
But I’ll tell you what - those points have made me a genuinely slower, safer driver - arriving at a time when i really did need to slow down in ALL things.
Roll on the weekend. 🌸
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer
21/05/2026
This is exactly why I do what I do.
Two bits of feedback landed in my world today, completely out of the blue.
The first was from a teenage client I worked with a couple of years ago during her GCSEs. She’s in the middle of her A level exams right now, and last night she couldn’t sleep - completely wired, head going ten to the dozen. She remembered a guided meditation I’d sent her back then, found it, used it… and not only did it help her get to sleep, it put her in exactly the right headspace for her exam today. Which apparently went really, really well.
She’s no longer a client. But I love the fact that she remembered the tools we worked on together. She kept them. And she went back to them. Two years on.
That’s the work.
The second was a brand new five star Google review - making it ten five star reviews in total (Pom Pom shaking please!) - from someone who came through my Unmasked group coaching programme earlier this year. She talked about the lightbulb moments, the shifts, the different ways of looking at things that have genuinely changed her life.
Watching her go through that programme was an absolute joy. Especially the moment something shifted for her around confidence - the kind of shift that changes your whole perspective. And I remember the exact moment it happened too! You can’t manufacture that. You just get to witness it.
And that’s the thing I always say - the work is never for my clients or done to them. It’s always with them. Which means what they take away is truly theirs.
I don’t always ask for feedback. Sometimes it just arrives. And today I really really needed it.
If you’re doing work that matters, trust that it lands further and lasts longer than you’ll ever fully know.
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer.
PS. If you’d like a copy of my Guided Meditation for Exam Preparation for the teenager in your life, please feel free to drop me a DM with your email and I’ll send it over!
Helena Clare
14/05/2026
Do you ever sit there and think “is this it?”
I know I did..
You’ve hit the “markers of success”. The career, the business, the life that looks good from the outside. You’ve ticked the boxes everyone said would make you feel successful.
And yet you feel strangely empty.
Not ungrateful. Not dramatic. Just quietly aware that something is off - and has been for a while.
That feeling of “is this it?”
That person was me. And it’s who I built this work for.
So here’s what I actually do - because it’s been a while since I put it all in one place.
I work with high-achieving professionals who look like they’ve got it together from the outside, and are quietly exhausted on the inside.
People exactly like I was.
If that’s you, here’s how we can work together…
💜 Just starting to wonder if something needs to change?
Unmasked - my 6-week group programme - is your soft landing.
A small, safe group (max 10) where you start naming the patterns that have been running your life. No spotlight. No pressure. Just honest, supported work in good company.
My last group are planning to meet for Prosecco together to celebrate their growth!
£350
💜 Ready to go 1:1 but want to start with one focused breakthrough?
Stop Being Stuck is a half-day intensive designed to cut straight to the pattern, interrupt it, and give you something tangible to walk away with. Fast. Focused. Real.
£995 - and it credits forward if you decide to go deeper.
💜 Ready to go all in?
Beyond the Breakthrough is the full journey. Six months, three phases, deep 1:1 work - not just shifting your mindset but rewiring at the root. This is where lasting change actually happens.
£2,995
💜 And if you want me fully in your corner for a whole year? Beyond the Breakthrough: Mastery starts from £5,500.
One thing worth knowing - your investment always credits forward. Start anywhere with 1:1 work and upgrade anytime. You only ever pay the difference. Never twice.
If any of this feels like it may be right for you, the first step is a Chemistry Call.
No pitch. No pressure. Just an honest conversation about where you are and whether we’re the right fit.
Link in the comments/bio
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer.
PS. I have ONE case study spot left for my Master Practitioner training with PASEDA360® COACH TRAINING ACADEMY - your chance to experience Beyond The Breakthrough at HALF the usual price!
If this is for you - let me know ASAP as we need to start soon!!
It’s time to get them out and give them a really good shake.
No, not those.
I’m talking about your pom-poms.
In my little world of coaching, pom-poms are a very BIG deal.
Ever since I became part of the Paseda360 Training Academy - where the wonderful Angela Cox will whip hers out to celebrate how flipping amazing we all are - they’ve become a proper thing.
Mine are pink and purple, if you’re asking!
I get them out with clients. I get them to shake theirs. We celebrate achievements, shifts, changes, growth. All of it.
This week was no different. Pom-poms made several appearances - but one moment really stayed with me.
A young client. I could see in her body language that it felt uncomfortable. She REALLY didn’t want to do it. It’s just not cool!
But she stepped up. She did it. I did it with her.
And something shifted.
Whether it was the swishing sound, the movement, or just the sheer silliness of it - she started to enjoy it. Actually enjoy it.
And we were celebrating something worth celebrating: how far she’s come over the last couple of years. Not just because of the work we’ve done together - but because she has shown up, done the work, and put in the effort.
The thing is, when something feels a bit icky, when your brain says “I shouldn’t be doing this” - that shouldn’t is actually the signal. It’s the sign to go do the exact thing.
Play matters. Celebration matters. Recognising how flipping brilliant you are - that matters.
So. When did YOU last get your pom-poms out?
If it’s been a while or you’ve never done it - I’m imploring you. Go do it. Even if they’re imaginary ones!
Let that little inner-child version of you out to play.
Go shake your pom-poms.
You’ll feel so much better.
I promise x
Helena x
Pattern Breaker. Life Changer.
04/05/2026
MAY THE 4TH BE WITH YOU…
In my house, Star Wars is a big deal.. in 2023 we spent Easter weekend at the Star Wars Celebration event at Excel!
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And I love Star Wars as there are so many great quotes that remind us of the wisdom that is available to support us with life's challenges. I even have a Yoda and meditating Grogu (Baby Yoda) in my office as a reminder!
So as it’s Star Wars Day today, I thought it only fitting to share some of these amazing quotes with you so that you too can embrace Star Wars wisdom!
1. "Do. Or do not. There is no try". Yoda. A simple lesson in commitment and the power in giving something our all - not just giving it a try. Often used in my house as a reminder that we are in control of whether we can achieve something or not, so JUST DO IT!
2. "The greatest teacher, failure is". Yoda. Don't be afraid of making mistakes, they are, by far, the best way to learn - you ALWAYS remember when you did something wrong and will ensure it never happens again. Every successful person has failed at least once (several times)!
3. “Clear your mind of questions". Yoda. We all live exceptionally busy lives and sometimes its hard to switch off. So give yourself permission to find a safe space, to simply stop DO-ing and start BE-ing. Switch off the phone, shut the door and close your eyes and enjoy the art of getting back to being a human BE-ing again!
4. Truly wonderful, the mind of a child is". Yoda.
When was the last time you allowed yourself the simple pleasure of being a big kid? When you are feeling down and overwhelmed, go do something fun that you loved to do as a kid - giggle like a child, swing on the swings, or bounce on a trampoline (remember your Tena Lady)! Allow yourself to feel unadulterated joy again!
5. "Breathe. Just breathe". Luke Skywalker. And when all else fails, take a really deep belly breath
- in through the nose and out through the mouth, allowing the out breath to be longer than the in breath. At least 3 times and ideally 6-7 times and just feel how much calmer and more relaxed you feel!
And if you are struggling with wearing the Darth Vader mask of your pretender* - people pleaser, perfectionist, persecutor of self or persecutor of others then drop me a DM - I can train you in the ways of the Force...
..leave behind the Dark Side and embrace your hidden, inner Jedi so that you can become the Master of your life!
*Paseda360 Pretender Model
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