At Loving Without Boundaries we believe that loving WHO you want HOW you want is a fundamental human right. Many have a fear of discrimination or exclusion as well as a loss of friendships and relationships, partly because they are “coloring outside of the lines” of what society deems appropriate behavior (basically hetero-normative monogamy as the only choice for healthy relationships). Many also suffer from a lack of support, understanding, and a sense of belonging due to mainstream society telling them they are WRONG for being who they are. Lastly many resort to cheating on their mate – thus creating emotional pain and suffering – because they don’t realize there is another choice. I truly believe that we can improve the quality of our lives by improving the quality of our relationships. I believe that at the end of each of our life journeys, it is love and the quality of our connections that we will cherish and hold dear to our hearts, no matter which path we choose to get there (monogamous, polyamorous, or otherwise). Being vulnerable and truly connecting means knowing who you are and having the courage to share your authentic self with others. The world is taught to believe in the scarcity model based on fear surrounding relationships, and thus many are dysfunctional or fail altogether creating unhappiness, disconnection, and isolation. The Loving Without Boundaries mission helps one see the world in abundance (vs. scarcity) with a sense of happiness that the world (and healthy, loving relationships) are within our control. My mission is also to teach people that they have more choices than they may realize, as well as how to love themselves better replacing self-hatred for being their authentic, genuine selves. I strive to help by offering a supportive community here at Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) as well as actionable advice through writing articles, relationship coaching, public speaking, effective tools and a place we can call home while we all navigate these waters in our unique quest for happiness and joy. The Loving Without Boundaries community is geared towards those practicing ethical non-monogamy of all kinds with an emphasis on polyamory and the poly-curious. The world needs to stop teaching people that hetero-normative monogamy is the only way to have healthy productive relationships. There are MANY ways to have healthy, loving relationships. On a related note I’m not OK with how sex negativity is so prevalent across the globe and even talking about sex is shunned in some circles. There is nothing wrong with talking about something as natural as sex. Expressions of love through the union of human beings is beautiful. I stand behind the philosophy of Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Alliance. Woodhull envisions a world that recognizes sexual freedom as the fundamental human right of all individuals (both men and women alike) to develop and express their unique sexuality; to be personally autonomous with regard to bodily integrity and expression; and to enjoy sexual dignity, privacy and consensual sexual expression without societal or governmental interference, coercion or stigmatization. With love and gratitude,
Kitty Chambliss, ELI-MP
Relationship and Transition Coach
