10/10/2026
How many times do you respond to the question "Hey, you ok?" with "Good thanks, you?"
We say it even when we're not.
It's a default or automatic response.
Or is it that we can't bring ourselves to say anything other than that?
Is it because we don't want to make the situation awkward?
Maybe we fear what the other person's reaction might be if we're not good.
Perhaps it's a time thing - reply that all is well and everyone can continue on their way, say that it's not and then what?
Do any of us have time to not be okay?
Yet, what might the consequences be if we keep it all inside?
And if the shoe was on the other foot, would you know what to say or do if the person you exchanged pleasantries with actually turned around and replied: "No, not really"?
Do you ever walk away from someone and question the tone of their response or reaction to being asked?
Each day we ask and answer that question.
Every day at least one person we will have that exchange with will respond with a lie.
It may even be us.
We need to recognise in ourselves and others the signs of not being okay.
We need to feel able to answer the question truthfully when asked if we are okay and we need to not be afraid to hear an answer of "not really".
We need to be mindful and have awareness of how our loved ones, friends and colleagues respond to us and we have to feel empowered to take action to support them and ourselves when things are not okay.
On this year’s World Mental Health Day, how would you really answer the question: Are you okay?
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