Carly Yue Coach

My life isn’t a sob story.

Genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, I believe everything that’s happened to me has also happened FOR me.

Even the absolute s**t.

When I write posts like this, I have tears in my eyes, not because I feel sorry for myself, but because I’m so fu***ng proud of the woman I’ve become.

The scared little girl who felt completely alone is now a brave woman who refuses to give up on herself.

I still have self-doubt.
I still criticise myself.
Things still affect me.

I don’t know if anyone with a past like mine ever becomes 100% healed.

But healing isn’t about never being impacted again.

It’s about knowing how to look after yourself when you are.

I’m grateful for who I am, where I’ve been and every woman I’m now able to help because of it.

If you’re struggling, I hope I remind you that you are powerful too.

And if you need a coach who genuinely gets it and will help you become the woman you know you’re capable of being…

Maybe I’m your girl ❤️

Carly xx

P.S. I’m quite funny too 😜 btw

Evidence that you can FEEL and look incredible in your 50s 🫶🏻

I think more women need to know this ❤️

Jennie already looked amazing. I’m sure you’ll agree.

She’s retired, a mum of three and travels regularly. From the outside, she has the seemingly “perfect” life.

But she still struggled with her confidence.

She wasn’t unhappy with her body or ungrateful for her life. She simply wanted to feel stronger, more toned and more confident and start showing up for herself now her children were older.

What we’ve done together isn’t a diet.

We’ve made small, gradual changes to her food and training. She lifts more and eats better, yes, but tbh the biggest transformation has been mental.

Jennie no longer drinks because she’s realised she doesn’t need the false confidence , or the migraines that came with it.

She prioritises strength training and walking because of how they make her feel, not just how they make her look.

She’s set boundaries that have improved her relationships.

She’s learning more about who she is, what she needs and what she wants from this stage of her life.

And she’s becoming an even stronger, happier and more confident version of herself.

I realise that sounds cheesy AF but it’s true.

Women in their 40’s and 50’s often come to me and say “maybe this is how I should feel now I’m older”

I’m here to say nope. F**k that 🤣

Here’s an inspiring example of what can be done with work, consistency and support.

Jennie hasn’t transformed overnight. She’s kept pushing herself week in week out with small change and goals.

And honestly that is how to get real results that last.

Carly xx

Ps fancy a chat? Dm me 🥰

You don’t need more discipline.

You need to stop tolerating the things that are making you miserable.

Being exhausted all the time.

Saying yes when you want to say no.

Doing everything for everybody else, then eating at night because it’s the only comfort or reward you’ve had all day.

Skipping meals because you’re “too busy”, then blaming yourself when you can’t stop eating later.

Speaking to yourself like s**t and expecting that to somehow motivate you.

Food often isn’t the REAL problem.

It’s the stress.
The resentment.
The lack of boundaries.
The pressure you’re putting on yourself.
The fact that your needs always come last.

(Btw do you even know what your needs are) 👀🥴

So ask yourself:

What am I tolerating?
How is it making me feel?
And what do I actually need to change?

Because the thing keeping you stuck isn’t what you’re eating…

It’s what’s eating away at you (like what I did there) 😜

This is exactly what we’re working on inside tonight’s Mindset Method coaching call ❤️

I have one space left to join in August.

DM me for a chat 💬

Carly # # #

Tell me you’re a boy Mum without telling me you’re a boy Mum.

I’ll go first…

“Mummmmmmmy there’s poo in the baaaaaaattth” 💩

I’m training for a 70.3 at the moment.

If you don’t know what that is, it’s a Half Ironman:

🏊🏼‍♀️ 1.9km swim
🚴🏼‍♀️ 90km bike
🏃🏼‍♀️ Half marathon

And I’ve been beating myself up a little because I’m still pretty (very 😂) s**te at swimming.

For context I only started riding last June and swimming maybe in January.

A few people recently have said to me:

“Just go and swim every morning from 6–8am. You’ll get better with time”

Yeah. I cannot do that 🤣

Not because I’m lazy.
Not because I don’t want it enough.

Because I have two young children, no childcare and a business to run.

And I cannot choose to prioritise 3+ hours of my day, once you include travelling, changing and all the general FAFFING, to swimming.

And I think this is something we don’t talk about enough when it comes to women and exercise.

Only around 1 in 4 participants in a 70.3 are women.

A full Ironman is only 18 per cent female.

I’d LOVE to know how many of those women are also business owners with primary-school-aged children starting from the bottom in their 40’s 🤣

Because the reality is, for a lot of women, finding time for ourselves IS harder.

That doesn’t mean we make excuses.

It means our version of commitment might look different.

I might not be able to train like somebody who can swim for two hours every morning.

But I can find my way.

I haven’t watched TV for almost 9 months.

I combine training with seeing friends so I’m getting social time AND training time.

I fit sessions around my children and my business.

Sometimes I train at ridiculous times. 5am, 9pm.

Sometimes I have to accept that what I can do is good enough.

So if you’re a woman who constantly feels like you “should be doing more”, two things:

1. It genuinely IS hard to make time for yourself. I get it.

You’re not imagining the demands on your time.

2. You still get to decide that you matter.

Maybe you don’t have two hours.

Maybe you have 20 minutes.

Maybe you can’t do the “optimal” plan.

Do the plan that actually fits your life.

Because I’m starting to realise that completing this 70.3 isn’t going to be impressive because I trained perfectly.

It’ll be impressive because I found a way to train imperfectly, in the middle of an already very full life. And if I’m not as “good” as someone else, I still know I gave it all that I had within my ability.

And I think there’s something pretty fu***ng powerful about that ❤️

Carly xx

Stop trying to lose weight.

Hear me out though 🫶🏻

If you’ve tried (and failed) to achieve your weight loss goals over and over again…

Maybe the problem isn’t that you need another diet.

Maybe you need to understand why you keep needing food in the first place.

Because when the food noise kicks in at 8pm…

When you’ve had a s**t day…

When you’re stressed, overwhelmed, lonely, bored or completely exhausted…

Your meal plan isn’t the problem.

And willpower isn’t the solution.

Instead, ask yourself:

What feeling is eating allowing me to escape from right now?

Not what are you eating.

Not how many calories are in it.

What happened right before you wanted it?

Because THAT is where the work starts.

You need to learn your specific triggers.

The situations.

The thoughts.

The emotions.

The moments when your food noise gets REALLY loud.

Then, instead of immediately reacting to the urge, you learn how to sit with it.

Not make it disappear.

Not battle with yourself.

Not tell yourself you’re “not allowed” to eat.

Just notice it and give yourself enough space to choose what happens next.

That is a skill.

And like any skill, it gets easier the more you practise it.

So before you decide that you’ve “failed” again and start looking for the next diet…

Stop.

Your problem might not be that you don’t know what to eat.

You might need to understand what keeps making you want to eat when you’re not actually hungry.

That’s a very different problem to solve.

And no 1,200-calorie meal plan is going to teach you that.

Carly xx

Ps I have 2 more spaces to join my Mindset Method programme in August. Then doors close.

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