Ben Wright

If you’ve been following my stuff for a while thinking “I really need to sort myself out” then this is probably for you.

Most of the dads who come to me already know something needs to change. It’s not like they’ve just woke up one morning and realised they’ve put weight on or their fitness has gone. They’ve normally known for months, sometimes even years.

You notice little things at first. Clothes aren’t fitting how you want them to. You’re getting out of breath doing stuff that never used to bother you. Training becomes something you used to do. Energy isn’t great, confidence takes a bit of a hit and every now and then you think, right I really need to get on top of this.

Then another month goes by. Then another.

And I get it. Kids, work, your relationship, bills, people relying on you and about 20 other things that always seem to come before you do.

But there comes a point where you need to give your own health some attention as well.

That doesn’t mean living in the gym, eating perfectly or making fitness your whole life either.

When a dad comes to work with me we look at where he’s at right now. What’s gone wrong, what he actually wants back, how much time he’s realistically got and what we can start changing. Then we work through it together.

Get stronger, get fitter, lose some weight if we need to, sort the food out, get some confidence back and start feeling like yourself again.

If you’ve been watching from the sidelines for a while and you know you’re ready to actually do something about it, comment COACHING below.

I’ll message you personally and we can have a proper chat about where you’re at.

My son turned three this week and honestly it’s just another reminder of how fu***ng quickly all of this passes.

We spend so much of our lives caught up worrying about s**t that comes and goes. Things that feel massive at the time, things we convince ourselves are never going to change. But most of it is just a season. We just act like it’s forever when we’re standing in the middle of it.

There’s not a great deal in life we can actually control. But we can control how we react. How we respond when things aren’t going our way. We can control our end of the relationships we’re in. The decisions we make. The food we eat. How we move. How we treat our bodies and how we look after our minds.

But if all you’re doing is constantly talking about the what ifs, the what could be’s and the what could have been’s, then don’t expect anything to change. And don’t moan when it doesn’t. Because at some point, that becomes a you thing.

Slow down a bit. Be where you are. Be patient with the process.

Because three years can pass in what feels like five minutes, and I think sometimes we need reminding that our life is doing exactly the same thing.

You keep telling yourself you’ll get back in shape.

That you’ll get stronger, lose the weight and start feeling like yourself again.

At some point you’ve got to stop saying it and actually do it.

Your family deserves the best of you.

So do you.